Postpartum Depression Affects Moms and Dads—Here's Why Recognizing the Signs Matters
- Rachel Higgins
- Mar 20
- 2 min read
Becoming a parent is often described as one of life’s most beautiful and transformative experiences—but it's also one of the most emotionally and physically demanding. While postpartum depression (PPD) is commonly associated with mothers, it's important to acknowledge that fathers and non-birthing partners can experience it too. And when it goes unrecognized or unspoken, it can deeply impact the whole family.
What is Postpartum Depression?
Postpartum depression is more than just the “baby blues.” While mood swings, irritability, and exhaustion are common in the early weeks after birth, PPD is a more intense and long-lasting experience of sadness, anxiety, disconnection, or hopelessness. It can interfere with your ability to care for yourself, your child, and your relationships.
It’s Not Just a “Mom Thing”
While roughly 1 in 7 mothers experience postpartum depression, studies show that up to 1 in 10 fathers can also develop symptoms. For dads and partners, PPD can show up differently—irritability, withdrawal, anger, risky behaviors, or working excessively to escape. Many partners feel pressure to be the “rock,” which can make it even harder to open up about their struggles.
Why Recognizing the Signs Matters
Untreated postpartum depression—whether in moms or dads—can have lasting effects on the mental and emotional health of both parents, as well as their baby. When a parent is struggling, bonding with their child can feel distant or forced. Relationships can suffer. Guilt, shame, or isolation can build.
But here’s the good news: postpartum depression is treatable, and healing is absolutely possible.
Common Signs of Postpartum Depression
Whether you're a mom, dad, or partner, keep an eye out for these signs in yourself or your loved one:
Persistent sadness or low mood
Loss of interest or pleasure in activities
Difficulty bonding with the baby
Feeling overwhelmed or hopeless
Changes in appetite or sleep (beyond typical newborn disruption)
Irritability, anger, or restlessness
Withdrawing from friends or family
Thoughts of self-harm or harming the baby
If you're experiencing any of these, you're not alone—and you deserve support.
Asking for Help is a Strength
There is no shame in struggling. Parenting is hard, and asking for help doesn't make you weak—it makes you wise and strong. Talk to a trusted friend, reach out to your healthcare provider, or connect with a therapist who specializes in perinatal mental health.
And if you’re a partner noticing these signs in your loved one, open the door to conversation gently and without judgment. Your support can make all the difference.
You Deserve to Feel Supported
Parenthood comes with a whirlwind of emotions. Joy and gratitude can exist alongside exhaustion and overwhelm. Whatever you’re feeling, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to go through it in silence.
If you or your partner are struggling and want to talk, I’m here. Together, we can explore a path toward healing and feeling more like yourself again.
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